Thursday, 09 July 2009

  • Sex Blog.*

    Apparently Channel 4 in the UK did a piece on Sex Blogs and talked about Abby Lee and Belle du Jour and Bitchy Jones and other well known London sex bloggers.  Apparently the piece wasn't all that amazing.

    I found mention of it on Belle du Jour's blog and tried to look it up, but I just found the Channel 4 website and people who blogged about the piece.  One woman, lightupvirginmary, I'm not sure if she enjoyed the program, but she is definitely in favor of a woman being allowed to write about her sexual exploits and experiences without censure.  And I liked what she wrote about sex blogging 'taking back the power from women's magazines':

    "I really liked the aspect of sex blogging involving taking back the power from women's magazines, and the fact that the things individual women are into are not the things we are told to like. How often to women's magazines talk about men and women being either dominant or submissive in bed? It's always just ridiculous, unworkable techniques and recycled ideas from the 60s. I like the freedom of expression and not towing the party line."

    Have you ever read a Cosmopolitan or a Glamour?  They always say the same damned things over and over and over again.  And half the time I'm almost certain they make up the names of their sexperts, PhD.  Half the time the things they say to do are just embarassing and laughable [no, seriously!  We had a tradition at work this season where we would purchase a Cosmo and read sections of it out loud because we thought they were funny, dirty or otherwise dumb.  The boys would tell us if the "guys perspective" was accurate or not and most of the time it was not!].  If I'm going to read about sex I'd like it to be accurate and open and honest.  I see no harm in women's sex blogs.

    Lightupvirginmary writes, "Sex is a feminist issue for women . . . . women should be allowed to talk about their sex lives on the exact same playing field as men."  Women should be able to enjoy sex and enjoy talking about sex without shame or repurcussion.  Being secure enough to discuss sex and ask questions about sex or share observations about sex should not be stilted or demonized.  Women should be able to talk about sex with each other.  We shouldn't be afraid of what other women will think of us or what they will say about us once we've left the room [that goes for more than just sex!].  Open honest discussion ought to be the norm, especially about "taboo" topics!

    We should also get our facts straight.  Apparently Belle du Jour was not pleased with how they dealt with her in the program.  [Which really makes me want to watch the program for myself so I can know what they DID say about her.]  There was an implication, apparently, that she can't be considered a 'woman blogger', but strictly a 'sex blogger' because, she writes, "because whores are not women".  Also she's not a feminist.

    She goes on a bit of an Eff U rant for a while, but I must say, between all the Eff U's, I quite agree with her.  Things have been done under the umbrella of 'Feminism' that make being a feminist highly unattractive.  I'm all about solidarity and women's rights and defending those rights whether I ascribe myself to them or not [but that could also just be considered 'the American way'], but I don't think I want to be considered a 'Feminist'.

    Belle du Jour writes, both sarcastically and scythingly, "You damn right I'm no feminist, cos all feminists give a monkey's for these days is how to claim breast pumps as tax exempt and where to find the best au pairs."  Feminism, in its early days, 'bout a hundred years ago, started out as a glorious rebellion against the then contemporary way of thinking and women marched and made banners and fought for the right to vote.  But now it seems most feminists are angry militants who want men to burn in hell and want women who don't think like they do drawn and quartered!  This is not a crusade I wish to join.

    Women are sexual beings just like men.  Women enjoy sex.  Women have a need to talk about sex.  Women have that right.  Women are diverse.  You can't judge all women based upon one.  The whole Angel of the Household concept went out with bustles and corsets [it only applied to white women anyway].  Women are no longer expected to be the embodiment of morality (we never ought to have been! [read Joanne Harris's novel Sleep, Pale Sister for more on that]).  Women are not all that different from men.  This is true, although I do still believe that the sexes are on opposite sides of a deep ravine, but we're not that different.

    Plus people blog about everything.  It's really quite sickening.

    People blog about:

    Dogs

    Needlepoint

    Botany

    Furniture

    Antique Furniture

    Restaurant Furniture

    Eco-Furniture

    Musical Theatre

    Fashion

    Literature

    Liberal Politics

    Conservative Politics

    French Politics

    Zac Efron

    Zac Efron's Tan

    Then the general ones about individuals lives and whatnot.

    So why not sex?  Afterall, the Internet is for porn!

    ps. I WISH I were making up some of those blogs!  They are both frightening and a.mazing!  I had no idea there were so many people out there blogging about furniture!


    *I had far too much fun writing this!

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